Creating Two New Novels. Writing One Chapter Weekly. Podcasting As I Go. Welcome to The Experiment.
Of course, this is not a real casting call by Showtime, but I bear with me while I make my point.
How many of you who clicked here are poly? Now, how many of you actually thought, “Yes! I’ll/we’ll do it!” (Everyone looks around for raised hands, but didn’t raise their own)
This was inspired by a comment on my other post: Does Showtime’s Polyamory Married and Dating Feed Stereotypes? The comment suggested to contact the producers. At first, it sounded like a good idea and then I thought…. “And say what?” They’re making money. They are not going to cancel because a group of people feel they are being misrepresent. I know! Add my friends to the show. They would represent a more “mainstream” side to poly.
Wait! That friend won’t do it because her job is too high status. That other friend won’t either because his parents doesn’t know he has had two wives since he was 21. (now 38) That other friend, she’d do it – but her partners won’t. (not out to everyone…you know how it is.)
So, yes. Maybe Showtime did go the “sex & drama sells” route, but maybe it was the only route they could find. And, whose fault is that?
I have a friend with the theory that poly is going to become accepted in our society along the same timeline it took for homosexuals to become accepted. And, that starts the hour debate. Same-sex relationships have become more accepted because they – in large numbers – came out of the closet. Poly is still largely in that closet. Until poly people are willing to take on the same prejudices, the same struggles, the same marches, the same legal battles, the same “poly-bashing”, the same fear of coming out to those closest to them, the same fear of losing their jobs…how is change and acceptance supposed to happen? Congress didn’t just go into their little room one day and say, “You know, it’s time we gave those LBGT people some rights.” No! LBGT fought for them, they came out for them.
You’ve probably read my laminations that I wish Showtime had picked two different, or a least added another group that may be more readily accepted by society due to their manners, mindset, stability, etc, but when it’s all said and done, even if I were to become poly tomorrow and landed in my ideal situation: polyfidelty with three girls and one or two guys, we all live in a mansion together, have successful careers, (well, I want to be a stay-at-home mom/housewife), are home by dinner every night, each have our own rooms, plan on raising kids one day, and we each love one another (except the guys, they are straight, but good friends), I know I am not volunteering to be on the show. Why? Have you met my grandmom?!? She’d die. And remember, we have successful careers. Can’t lose our jobs because of the mansion we have to pay for…
Just maybe poly isn’t accepted in society because it isn’t yet important enough to poly people that it is accepted.