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First, let me clarify that I am not bashing the people on Showtime’s, Polyamory: Married & Dating, but I have some issues with the image of the lifestyle they are portraying.
Let’s imagine it’s the first time a minority will be broadcast on television. We’ll start with gays. The first ever episode features gay men who are all flamboyant, colorful dresser, with high-pitched voices who love to shop. Another first time show featuring African Americans. The show focuses on a fried-chicken eating, baggy pants wearing, all day cussing black family drinking B&J like it’s water.
Now imagine you’re apart of either of those groups. Wouldn’t you be a little upset that the first ever truly public display of your minority is represented by the most common and least favorable stereotypes? Even if you have friends/family just like the ones you’re watching and you love them to no end! You love them, but maybe it wasn’t wise for them to represent the entire, “I’m gay and I’m proud” community.
I feel that way about the couples on Showtime’s, Polyamory: Married & Dating. I’m sure they are great people, but wow! Way to feed into every, “poly people are sex driven, free love, hippy-types, with more drama in the relationship than it’s worth,” stereotype.
This blog was inspired by a blog titled, “Things I Learned From Showtime’s Polyamory: Married and Dating.” The author gives her very witty and laugh out loud commentary. And the not-so-funny part about it is this: that’s what the show is presenting poly to be.
Let’s assume 50% of the population is already prejudice against poly relationships. The other 50% never heard of it. I feel like this show is making the first 50% feel they are right in their assumptions and the unbiased 50% would rather not consider it if based solely on this show.
And that irritates me just a little. I have plenty of friends who, if were video taped, have very stable and loving multiple partner relationships. After watching them the census may be more along the lines of, “it’s not for me”, vs what I’m reading and hearing now: “controlling, selfish, greedy, sex-focused, straight man’s dream, girl’s must be bi or desperate (aka unattractive) to share their man…” ugh!
But yes, I know groups similar to the ones I’m watching on Show, but I also know some who are the exact opposite. Can they get a TV crew as well?